Season of Humbling

We all have our moments, some of us many moments, of feeling prideful. We try to be the best, put up an air of having everything in control. We try to have the cutest clothes, the best job, great relationships, a beautifully decorated home, impressive cooking skills, the most “likes” on social media, a busy social life. When you feel like what you have or have done isn’t good enough, your pride can be hurt.

In my small group we’ve been studying the book of Ruth using a workbook by Kelly Minter (you can find it here if you’re interested – we’ve loved it). A couple weeks ago Kelly discussed having a season of humbling in your life and how beneficial it can be to your character:

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Be encouraged that humbling seasons are for our ultimate benefit, though they are painful and, well, humbling.

I consider myself to be in a season of humbling. I used to be incredibly prideful – the things that were most important to me were looking good (including being thin), being a fast runner, having good clothes and labels, and doing something “accomplished” with my life. I’m not going to pretend that I have lost these tendencies, I definitely still have my moments.

However, this past year has been very humbling and I continue to learn and grow from these experiences. My running abilities have diminished, I’ve gained weight, I can’t afford the things I want to buy and I don’t have a job at all, let alone an “impressive” one. Although losing all these things made me feel like I wasn’t worth anything, I have learned the true meaning of my value as a person.

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It’s important for us to focus on how we want to feel and make others feel, rather than our outward appearance. When we look back over our lives we aren’t going to reminisce on our exact weight, how impressive our job was, how fast we were, our class rank or what clothes we wore. We’re going to remember the experiences we had and the people who we loved.

I want to leave this world having had an impact on the lives of those around me. I want to spread God’s love, to make people feel special and important, and improve lives even in little ways. That’s what is really important.

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This doesn’t mean I will no longer care about all those other things, I mean come on, I love fashion, you’ve seen my Pinterest board. But I hope to put a little less value and priority in those things.

Today I challenge you to write down the things that are most important to you now (what occupies your mind most of the day? what would you be upset about losing?) and then write down what you want to be most important to you.

If you’re willing to share – what would be your answers?

When was one time where you felt humbled in your life?

37 thoughts on “Season of Humbling

  1. Jana @ Happy Wife Healthy Life

    I loved this post! I think right now I am in a season of humbling as well. I have always been working for the next step, high school, college, graduation, job, etc and right now I am just living in the moment. This is tough for me because I always thought i would be farther along in my job, etc at this point in my life, but right now my focus is more on living a Christ-centered and appreciative life as well. 🙂

    1. Katie Post author

      It’s hard when you look back on where you thought you’d be at this point. I thought I’d be married by 26! Painfully single… haha

  2. Lindsey @ DishingUpHope

    What a beautiful post! Thank you for sharing your heart with us. It is so true, that we often value ourselves on things rather than our identity in Christ. This was a beautiful way for me to start the morning. God Bless you!

  3. Emily @ Perfection Isn't Happy

    I feel like I could’ve written this myself. In fact, I’ve told Jordan over and over again that over the past year or so, I’ve been so humbled. I do think its important to remember that it will only last for a season, and we’ll come out stronger people because of it. I still care what other people think, though, so at times it’s really hard!

    1. Katie Post author

      Again – same person. Haha. I agree, not having a job and trying to find my place has been SO humbling and such a reminder that my value isn’t how impressive my job is to people. Kind of glad this all happened!

  4. Carly

    Great post! Have to say, one of those images had me singing Lady Gaga’s “I live for the applause applause applause” in my head and just reminds me of how intensely mainstream media advocates for a life of pride, selfishness, shallowness.

    I am humbled now, having left my day job to do freelance stuff and work on my book. When I explained it to people at work, some would say things like “Wow, what a setback for your career.” It was humbling at first to feel so small, and I had to remind myself that my worth is not what I find in their eyes as they watch me make choices, but instead it is in God as he watches me make the choices He guides me to.

    Now, why the heck is that so hard to remember?!?!?! I feel like I need to put a post it on my mirror saying, “The only person whose opinion matters today: God.”

    1. Katie Post author

      Haha love that song! But so true – our workbook actually asked about how media encourages people to be prideful.

      And I can’t believe people say that?!? My first thought was – omg I’m so jealous, I’d love to be talented enough at something to do freelance work full time!

      Also – I think instead of a post it on my mirror I just need a sign that hangs in front of my face all day…

  5. Lia @ Luscious Living

    Really great reflective post. Thanks for opening up. I think we all go through phases of ego and pride and then are quickly reminded that those things we base our value on can be taken away very easily and very quickly. We talk about it a lot in yoga. These times are the best lessons and we should always be grateful for them because they keeps grounded and remind us what is really important in your lives and within our selves. I continually work on remembering that only I can create my value,nothing else and nobody else can do that. If that were true then our value would fluctuate all the time and that just isn’t the case. We are always just as valuable and important as the person next to us and that value is only identifiable by you inside of you. Sometimes it’s hard. I still get stuck on the idea of having an “accomplished life” in the more standard american sense. Whenever I let that go though, I accomplish more and am happier. It might not be financial accomplishments, but accomplishments that actually matter to me, like improving some skill or making a difference in someone’s life.

    Got a bit carried away there. Relish the humble moments. That’s the short response! Oh, and don’t forget to think about how much you love yourself everyday!

    1. Katie Post author

      Ahh I need to find a good yoga studio to go to regularly – such a great practice for the body and mind. And so true, what “accomplished” means to me or you might be very different from what it means to other people.

  6. Michelle @ Esculent Dreams

    Beautifully written. I’ve been through quite a few “humbling” experiences, but the one that I can’t seem to shake happened last fall, in 2013. I had an amazing audition for a local company, and having been the best technical dancer there I felt as though I had it in the bag. Unfortunately the outcome was less than favorable, and for the past 4 months I’ve found myself analyzing and reanalyzing my possible shortcomings. Auditions are always a terrible (and usually heartbreaking) process, but that experience let me see that dance isn’t something I should be taking for granted, especially if I’m looking to pursue it professionally. My body, talents, and abilities cannot and should not be praised for “my glory,” but His instead.

    1. Katie Post author

      Those experiences are so rough – when you put yourself out there and aren’t chosen and don’t know why. You just have to have faith in yourself and His plan for you and know that you did your best.

  7. Beth

    Thank you so much for the beautifully written post, Katie. It really touched me and all you said certainly resonates with me. Trying to be as thin as models, not having money to buy clothes, being unemployed, barely being able to pay the bills….not what I expected when I graduated from college Summa Cum Laude. Nobody cares about that. I must remind myself that God loves me for me and not for materialistic belongings I can’t afford anymore. I don’t have a family, a career, a home that I own… But I have a huge heart, help others when I can, and try to live the way God wants me to live. It’s hard not to fall into comparing myself to others my age and feel like a failure when I see all they have accomplished that I haven’t. It’s a daily inner struggle.

    1. Katie Post author

      Exactly – it’s about your heart, not the other things that people put too much importance on. We get no where by comparing ourselves!

  8. molly @ heart, sole & cereal

    i love this post katie! it’s always good for me to remember things like this. i am really impressed with your introspection and it always makes me do a bit of self-reflection as well. it is easy to get caught up in the labels and the ideas of what we think we should be striving for but you boiled it down so well – having an impact positively on the world around you, and that’s about more than just looking good. thanks for the reminder! i’d say for me, mine are staggeringly similar to yours on both fronts (realizing what is important vs. realizing what should be), but for the most part i’m trying to spend my time now focusing on being present with the ones i love.

    1. Katie Post author

      SO easy to get caught up in all the superficial stuff, especially when that’s what we see all around us every day.

  9. Annette Perkins (@FitnessPerks)

    This is such an incredible post!! MUST share this.

    I love your approach–and what you said. This life is NOT about stuff–it is to learn, grow, become better, have awesome relationships, and come closer to God (at least in my opinion)! So stripping away all that stuff will def make anyone realize what is most important. I SO agree!!! love you much, Katie!! <3

  10. Courtney

    Oh, this is fabulous. I’m currently in law school, and I know that being insulated in a world where much of what matters is superficial appearances and rankings/grades can do a number on your way of thinking. It’s refreshing to be reminded that, in the big scheme of life, those things are insignificant. Thank you for the reminder! 🙂

    1. Katie Post author

      Oh my gosh, I realized in the first week of law school that it was like going back to high school with all the cattiness! Definitely try to keep your head above all of that and stay focused on YOU and not everyone else!

  11. Bryanna

    What a great post!! Humility is definitely something we all could use a little more in our lives. I have had those humbling moments that at the time seemed embarrassing or not fun, but looking back on them they helped me grow and be more like Christ. He is the definition of humble, as He humble himself to the point of dying for us!! Now that’s humility.

    1. Katie Post author

      Exactly – job searching these past several months has been humiliating to me but I’m SO glad it has happened. If I’d gotten a job right away I would have thought it was all me and not God. This has really taught me his role in my life and how to appreciate all the seasons I go through.

  12. Fiona @ Get Fit Fiona

    I have two family members with cancer, so I’ve come to appreciate the time I get to spend with my family so much more. You don’t realize how much things would change/how much you’d miss them until something happens.

    1. Katie Post author

      I can’t even imagine – it’s definitely the difficult things in life that make us more grateful and focused on the important things.

  13. Sam

    Great post! I graduated from law school in 2012 and have really struggled to find happiness in this industry. I’ve had a lot of ups and downs as a lawyer so far, but you’re right – it’s better to focus on the big picture that is life.

    1. Katie Post author

      Yea, I don’t know if it’s the right place for me but hopefully I’ll figure it out soon!

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  17. Amy H. @ Run with Perseverance

    Reading this was so well-timed for me. Thank you for putting things in to prospective and helping me to remember the purpose of why we’re on this earth: spread God’s love and let others see His glory through us! (that second part came to me as I was reading this :))

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