1. Happy Thursday!! WHO IS READY FOR FRIDAY? I’ve only worked Tuesday and Wednesday so far this week and it already feesl like today should be Saturday. I went in really early both days, stayed late one day, and then last night I went home for an hour and a half and then came back for an evening event… so it feels like four days. SO READY for the weekend!
2. Speaking of weekends… last weekend, I went to Wine on the Rocks with my friend Maddie. It was really fun!!! A bunch of wineries set up tents and you walked around with a wine glass getting tastes ($50 ticket to get in). Plus there were other vendors giving out food samples and selling various things, a band, and firemen! Well, the firemen weren’t really supposed to be there, but we enjoyed them nevertheless.
3. Also on Saturday, I worked out with friends! Well, virtually, but honestly it was so fun. When you’re used to working out on your own every day, it’s nice to do it with a group of your friends, even when they live all over the country (and Canada!). We’re all doing the same workout program so we were doing the same moves too. We’re starting a new group next week so reach out ASAP if you want to learn more!
4. Remember how I’d been dog sitting for three full weeks? Well, it’s OVER! I get to sleep in MY OWN BED now! I did like living in a bigger house rather than an apartment (more light and space) but I also can sleep through the night without someone jarring me awake by barking, which is a win in my book!
5. If you watch my instagram stories, then you’ve probably seen some of my workouts along with my music! Here’s my current workout playlist (ever-changing):
6. I’ve been doing my own version of a “Miracle Morning,” but I’m about to start reading the actual book by Hal Elrod. Has anyone read it?
7. This weekend is my mom’s birthday and she and my dad are down in Colorado Springs. We’re all going to hang out with my niece, Addie, on Friday (oh, and my brother and sister-in-law…) and then I’m going down to Colorado Springs for the weekend. SO EXCITED! I love that place.
1. Oh, hey! How’s your week going? I’m on week THREE of dog-sitting and I have to say, I’m considerably more sane than I anticipated at this point. I’m definitely tired of it, don’t get me wrong (3 nights left!!!) but I think the three biggest things helping are 1) wax earplugs (I’m a very light sleeper), 2) moving into their house completely so I’m not going back and forth, and 3) trying to stay as positive as possible! 3 nights left… 🙂
2. I also got to see my favorite dog this week! Molly needed a ride back up to her home near Boulder so I took her home and went on a walk with her before leaving. She’s just the cutest. For real.
3. This weekend I’m going to Wine on the Rocks with my friend, Maddie. I can’t believe it’s already AUGUST! When we bought these tickets months ago it just seemed so far away – like an end of the summer event. Can we go back in time??
4. So I’ve been doing this new workout program and for the agility workouts, they use these markers that are made of flexible plastic so they don’t slide, like using cones in soccer or other sports drills. Well, I didn’t get them but I needed something to mark distance, so I found these in the basement where I was working out! Totally the same thing… right?
5. Speaking of these workouts… in this week’s agility workout there is one move where you jump from one marker to another. When Chris (the instructor) does it, he literally leaps 3-4 feet in the air. I get about 4 inches… tops.
6. NEWSFLASH: Did you know there’s a solar eclipse happening on Monday, August 21st? Click here to learn more about it, but it just so happens to be the SAME day as the Golf Tournament I’m organizing as a fundraiser for work (I work at a private, K-12 school). We’re going to be out on the golf course as it gets dark in the middle of the day. How cool is that?! It’s not directly going over Colorado, but it will still be cool. Ironically, it’s going directly over two places I’ve lived: Kansas City and Charleston!
7. I finally finished One Way Love, which was good but took me months to get through. I decided to read Women, Food, and God next because I’ve had it on my shelf for years and I think it’s a good time to read finally pick it up! I’ve only read the introduction and the first chapter, but I love it already.
We are constantly bombarded with the concept of loving your body, but what if that’s something you struggle with? Actually, the majority of women struggle with this concept because we live in a world where a certain body type is considered beautiful and anyone else is less than.
Whether you struggle every day or most days you feel pretty good about yourself, we all have those moments. We see a photo of us that’s unflattering, our jeans are too tight, or we catch a bad angle in the mirror. I actually had some friends back in college saying they avoided looking at their bodies in the mirror because they just didn’t want to see themselves. Does that make you sad? Because it makes me sad!
We all have those moments, but how do we get past them?
Stop thinking and take a deep breath.
Now take another.
Calming your heart rate is essential because that’s what sends you into a panic. Know that the thoughts running through your head probably aren’t true. The way your body looks probably won’t keep you from doing anything you want to do in your life, as long as you don’t let your thoughts and fears hold you back.
Find something else to do to channel that energy.
Go for a run.
Do a boxing or HIIT workout.
Read your bible.
Walk around the block.
Choose something to the negative energy out that’s good for you. It’s so easy to turn to a familiar but unhealthy coping mechanism to make yourself feel better in the moment, like binge eating or drinking, because it will only make you feel worse in the end.
Once you’ve calmed down, pull out your rational mind. Your body does not define you. People don’t love you because of your body, they love you for you. When you think about women you admire, do you think about their bodies? Probably not.
You’re okay. You’re going to be okay. In fact, you’re pretty awesome.
Breathe through those moments until they pass, because if you’re focusing on accepting, liking and loving yourself then you will feel better when you let your rational brain take back over from those negative thoughts.
Now that you’ve figured out how to breathe through those moments, let’s work on experiencing them less and less.
First of all, it’s important to know that they probably won’t ever go away. Unless you truly love every inch of your body (Samantha from Sex and The City comes to mind 😉 ), you’re going to have those moments every once in a while. The key is to learn how to move through them, rather than trying to make them never happen, which only ends up in you feeling bad that you can’t love yourself the way you are. No one needs that shame! Understand that you’re human, you’re going to be affected by what you see and hear and you can’t get rid of years of conditioning in just a few months.
Jumping from hating or disliking how your body looks to loving how your body looks is a big leap and can become too overwhelming or feel impossible. Start with accepting your body. That’s all – just accept that this is how you look and know that we were all made differently. This might not change how you feel but just focus on acceptance.
Important interjection: Yes, you can want to change your body through nutrition and exercise, but you should still learn to accept and like yourself as you are now or you’ll never love yourself at another size. It’s all about being confident in who you are!
Once you’ve mastered accepting your body, move on to liking your body. Think about all the things you love about yourself. Think about how you have a healthy body that has done so much for you. Think about those moments where you felt amazing and just sit in those emotions and positive thoughts about yourself.
Even when you love your body, you’ll still have those moments. Those moments of seeing yourself in a negative light and feeling panicked that you have to change or you won’t be accepted. When that moment happens, stop and breathe. Use your tools. Journal out your feelings, breathe, do some yoga, go on a walk. In a difficult moment, these might be the last things you want to do but do them anyway. Anything is better than panicking and using a negative coping mechanism.
Sooner or later, you’re going to have more positive moments than negative ones. Those moments when you’re feeling amazing, dancing with your friends or catching yourself in the mirror and thinking, “you are totes adorbs today.” Okay, maybe you don’t use those words, but you get me, right?
Remember, start with acceptance and most importantly,
give yourself some grace.
You’re doing just fine.
How do you deal with negative body image moments?
What’s your best tip for calming down in moments of panic?
1. I’ve been using Instagram stories so much now that I’ve realized I don’t take many pictures of things that get saved to my phone… Which makes doing Thursday Thoughts difficult!
2. I saw this on Instagram and it made me laugh 🙂 Any Mean Girls fans out there? It’s such a quotable movie!
3. As of today, I’ve been dogsitting for 11 days and I still have 10 left to go! I thought this would be incredibly stressful but it’s actually been fine! The dogs I’m with now (the first four days was a different family) are getting a little clingy because they miss their parents but otherwise, they haven’t driven me crazy, which I think is in large part due to the wax earplugs I bought… As long as I get my sleep, I can handle most anything.
4. On Saturday, I went to the Botanic Gardens with my friend, Maddie. One thing we came across that we’d never seen growing were artichokes! Have you ever seen how they grow? Below is a picture of some of them flowering, which is what the hearts of the artichoke become if we don’t pick them. How cool is that?
5. I have two black tie weddings coming up in September and I think I’m going to try to buy one dress for both rather than do Rent the Runway separately… I did look on there but didn’t really love anything. Any suggestions on where I could find a dress around $100?
6. Amanda has been posting about this book and I’ve decided I need to get it! Although I already have at least five personal development books sitting on my shelves that I haven’t gotten to. I can finish a fiction novel in a day, but PD books take me foreeeeeever. It feels more like a textbook to me and I have to force myself to sit down and read.
7. I took yesterday off and headed down to Colorado Springs to hang out with my mom! I had some extra vacation days that I need to use before the end of August, but August is a busy time for me so I’m just taking a few random days, especially when dog sitting, to relax! We went to see Wonder Woman and I really liked it! Have you seen it?
If you missed Part One, go back and check that one out first. But now, it’s time for Part 2, which is all about what I’ve been doing recently with health and fitness (i.e. eating and exercise).
In part one, I talked about how I’ve backed away from coaching because I’ve been going through a lot personally and I not only wanted to keep to myself more but coaching started to feel disingenuous since I wasn’t really sharing my story. Well, because of my history of disordered eating, it’s no surprise that those kinds of negative thoughts have been coming back up as life got more stressful and my anxiety increased. While I have been working with people to help me get to the root of my negative thinking and learn to reframe false beliefs, it’s not an overnight fix.
I’ve been reading blogs like Robyn’s for years, knowing what it looks like to have a good relationship with food but putting it in the back of my mind. Only recently did it really click. I read a couple posts thinking, “That’s me! She’s describing me” and it made me realize that I don’t have it all together and it was time for a change.
I love following fitness programs, whether Beachbody or anything else, but I’ve learned that for right now, doing any program 100% isn’t in my best interest. I need to focus my energy on reframing my thoughts and developing a healthier relationship with food and keep fitness something I do for fun and because I want to – not because I feel like I have to so I can achieve any kind of goal. For so long now, I thought I’d gotten past all of these struggles but life throws us curveballs and when things are hard it’s easy to revert back to old patterns. Patterns are familiar and comforting, even if they’re destructive.
I’ve been on this trajectory of backing away from too much nutrition and fitness structure for about three months now and I know I’ve made the right choice. I’m still doing workouts, I’m still loving my Beachbody team and I’m even in our big team challenge group this month just for the positive energy. But I’ve also been taking steps to heal the source of the issue, and even though it’s hard to back away a little from something I actually enjoy, I know it’s worth it in the grand scheme of my life.
To be honest, I was (am) very hesitant to share all of this on here. I mean really, who shares all of these personal details on the internet? But I pushed publish because I know it’s important to share our struggles and let other people know they aren’t alone.
There may be many other women out there who are pushing themselves forward pretending that nothing is wrong or hoping it will all just go away once they lose those last 10 lbs, finish school, get a job, meet the perfect guy, or whatever it is that they’re wishing for. All those surface level things won’t fix the way you think about yourself, so take a step back and look at the bigger picture. If what’s best for you is backing away, know that gaining a little weight and losing some of your fitness now to fix your mental and physical health is worth it in the long run.
If you want to read more on this general topic (not everything applies to me, I just liked reading them), here are a few articles to check out: