Thursday Thoughts

1. Oh hey! I know, my blogging has been sporadic but this month has been the busiest one of the year by far with work and it doesn’t seem to be easing up much! Early mornings and staying late means some things get cut out and that seems to be social media and blogging. Things still in? Reading to relax and getting in my daily morning routine. I’m basically following Hal Elrod’s Miracle Morning but doing it my own way 🙂

2. This past weekend I was technically “working” on Sunday. I had to play in a golf tournament for work but it was a lot of fun! (Different from the golf tournament that I organized). It was the most golf I’d played in years but we did a scramble, which means you each hit your ball and then you pick the best ball and all go to that spot and hit again from there. It saved me from a lot of bad shots! Plus it was a gorgeous day, so no complaining here! 

3. The tournament I played in was for an animal shelter called Every Creature Counts. My friend, Maddie, actually got her cat from the shelter so she bought a sign for LaTarian on the course! It was a way to donate to the tournament if you couldn’t participate or just wanted to have them put up a sign of your pet! There were so many cute ones on the course, but obviously, LaTarian was the best-looking cat out there.

4. Another thing I’ve been doing is watching Bachelor in Paradise… I know, I shouldn’t have gotten sucked in but when other things are stressful it’s nice to do something that requires zero thinking. Well, zero thinking other than “She is being ridiculous,” or “Run away from him!” It’s entertaining, what can I say?

5. I just finished reading Women, Food, and God and definitely recommend it! I usually find personal development books hard to get through (I can only read a few pages at a time), but this one flew by and had so many good insights!

6. This is my friend, Seely. Seely is awesome. We had afternoon carpool duty yesterday and got to wear these amazing vests. Be jealous, the middle schoolers were… 7. Guess where I’m going this weekend? CHICAGO! My friend, Sarah, is getting married and I’m so excited for her!!! Her fiance is just the nicest guy and I think they match up pretty well. I mean, he likes her dog so that’s really what matters. I’m only going for a little over a day since almost all of my Chicago friends are actually out of town this weekend! I do get to stay with my friend, Alex, and I am so excited to see her too!

8. Have a great Thursday!

Your turn!

What are you doing this weekend? 

Do you play golf? 

Are you married? Tell me about your wedding! 

The Art of Ditching The Plan

I’m a planner. I like to know what’s going to happen, I like to be in control of what’s going on, and I like to have an exit strategy if I end up not wanting to be there anymore.

It’s Sunday afternoon and I’ve just gotten home after leaving my apartment at 7:00 am. Yesterday. I’m covered in dirt, I have grease marks all over me, I haven’t showered in days, I’m a little sunburnt and I’m pretty sure I smell enough not to be allowed anywhere a respectable human being should go. My weekend did not go as planned, but I have a feeling you know where I’m going with this…

I had the BEST TIME.

Because I have one of my biggest events for work on Monday (today for the purposes of this post), I’ve barely been home and I haven’t slept well from stress. Yes, I have done everything I could do and now we’ll just have to see how it goes but, nevertheless, I worry. I figured I would need a relaxing weekend. I’d planned to spend a few hours with my friend Julie who is visiting CO with her family, have a quiet Saturday night doing meal prep and laundry, then going to church and the driving range on Sunday.

I got up early Saturday morning, drove to the airport to pick up Julie and we had a great morning. We went to brunch at Maddie’s, I showed her around where I work, we walked around Wash Park and even went through an open house in a cute neighborhood (I SO WANT THAT HOUSE! Only $1.3 million! 😉 ).

When I went to drop her off to get her rental car, there was quite a snafu and they had nothing for her. Actually, none of the rental places we called had any cars available. I told her not to worry and that I’d drive her to pick up her friend from the airport and take them both to Boulder where Julie’s family would come down from the mountains where they were staying and pick them both up. Sure, it was a dent in my “plan,” but I wasn’t going to leave them stranded and I really didn’t mind – I love Julie!

Well, once we were leaving the airport, Julie asked if I just wanted to come up to the lodge with them, hang out and stay the night. My anxiety immediately said to me: “No! That will completely mess up your plan! You probably won’t sleep well. You’ll be tired tomorrow, you’ll get back home too late for church, blah, blah, blah.”

You know what I did? I told that voice to shove it. After much practice, I’ve learned to tell that voice that it’s wrong. That spending time with people I love (and I LOVE her family) will be much more fun, refreshing and memorable than a night at home with Netflix. So I said yes. With literally the clothes on my back, I headed up for an evening in the mountains.

Yes, I hadn’t showered and had to wear a mishmash of other people’s clothes to dinner and the put my same Saturday outfit back on for Sunday, but no one cared. Yes, I had nothing with me but my phone and water bottle, but I didn’t care. Even in the morning, when I hoped to get back home with plenty of time to go through my Sunday “routine,” I said screw it and I stayed. I went on a walk, I had breakfast, I sat around and chatted, I went and rented bikes and rode through a gorgeous mountain pass.

I had conversations. I met new people. I got to see the beautiful mountains. Most importantly, I felt welcomed, loved and appreciated.

You’ve heard it before, but I’ll say it again: life is best outside of your comfort zone. It’s less scary stay at home and do the things you know you like to do. It’s easy to read a book, watch a movie, go for a walk around your neighborhood, or even see the same person you see every week. But when I’m actually around other people, when I give up the plan and I do things that I don’t normally do or can’t control, that’s when I feel the most fulfilled, the most alive, most in-the-moment, and the most like myself. 

Dear rental car companies, thank you for being rude yesterday. Love, Katie.

Thursday Thoughts

1. Happy Thursday!! WHO IS READY FOR FRIDAY? I’ve only worked Tuesday and Wednesday so far this week and it already feesl like today should be Saturday. I went in really early both days, stayed late one day, and then last night I went home for an hour and a half and then came back for an evening event… so it feels like four days. SO READY for the weekend!

2. Speaking of weekends… last weekend, I went to Wine on the Rocks with my friend Maddie. It was really fun!!! A bunch of wineries set up tents and you walked around with a wine glass getting tastes ($50 ticket to get in). Plus there were other vendors giving out food samples and selling various things, a band, and firemen! Well, the firemen weren’t really supposed to be there, but we enjoyed them nevertheless.

3. Also on Saturday, I worked out with friends! Well, virtually, but honestly it was so fun. When you’re used to working out on your own every day, it’s nice to do it with a group of your friends, even when they live all over the country (and Canada!). We’re all doing the same workout program so we were doing the same moves too. We’re starting a new group next week so reach out ASAP if you want to learn more!

4. Remember how I’d been dog sitting for three full weeks? Well, it’s OVER! I get to sleep in MY OWN BED now! I did like living in a bigger house rather than an apartment (more light and space) but I also can sleep through the night without someone jarring me awake by barking, which is a win in my book!

5. If you watch my instagram stories, then you’ve probably seen some of my workouts along with my music! Here’s my current workout playlist (ever-changing):

6. I’ve been doing my own version of a “Miracle Morning,” but I’m about to start reading the actual book by Hal Elrod. Has anyone read it?

7. This weekend is my mom’s birthday and she and my dad are down in Colorado Springs. We’re all going to hang out with my niece, Addie, on Friday (oh, and my brother and sister-in-law…) and then I’m going down to Colorado Springs for the weekend. SO EXCITED! I love that place.

8. Have a great Thursday!!

Your turn!

How is your week going? 

What’s your favorite song right now? 

Wine or beer? Or something else? 

Thursday Thoughts

1. Oh, hey! How’s your week going? I’m on week THREE of dog-sitting and I have to say, I’m considerably more sane than I anticipated at this point. I’m definitely tired of it, don’t get me wrong (3 nights left!!!) but I think the three biggest things helping are 1) wax earplugs (I’m a very light sleeper), 2) moving into their house completely so I’m not going back and forth, and 3) trying to stay as positive as possible! 3 nights left… 🙂

2. I also got to see my favorite dog this week! Molly needed a ride back up to her home near Boulder so I took her home and went on a walk with her before leaving. She’s just the cutest. For real.

3. This weekend I’m going to Wine on the Rocks with my friend, Maddie. I can’t believe it’s already AUGUST! When we bought these tickets months ago it just seemed so far away – like an end of the summer event. Can we go back in time??

4. So I’ve been doing this new workout program and for the agility workouts, they use these markers that are made of flexible plastic so they don’t slide, like using cones in soccer or other sports drills. Well, I didn’t get them but I needed something to mark distance, so I found these in the basement where I was working out! Totally the same thing… right?

5. Speaking of these workouts… in this week’s agility workout there is one move where you jump from one marker to another. When Chris (the instructor) does it, he literally leaps 3-4 feet in the air. I get about 4 inches… tops.

6. NEWSFLASH: Did you know there’s a solar eclipse happening on Monday, August 21st? Click here to learn more about it, but it just so happens to be the SAME day as the Golf Tournament I’m organizing as a fundraiser for work (I work at a private, K-12 school). We’re going to be out on the golf course as it gets dark in the middle of the day. How cool is that?! It’s not directly going over Colorado, but it will still be cool. Ironically, it’s going directly over two places I’ve lived: Kansas City and Charleston!

7. I finally finished One Way Love, which was good but took me months to get through. I decided to read Women, Food, and God next because I’ve had it on my shelf for years and I think it’s a good time to read finally pick it up! I’ve only read the introduction and the first chapter, but I love it already. 

8. Have a great Thursday!

Your turn!

What are you reading right now?

How high can you jump? 

Are you going to watch the eclipse? 

Who is your favorite dog? <3

How to Move Through a Bad Body Image Moment

I heard this quote a while back and it really struck a chord with me:

Can you love the part of you that hates your body? – Samantha Skelly

We are constantly bombarded with the concept of loving your body, but what if that’s something you struggle with? Actually, the majority of women struggle with this concept because we live in a world where a certain body type is considered beautiful and anyone else is less than.

Whether you struggle every day or most days you feel pretty good about yourself, we all have those moments. We see a photo of us that’s unflattering, our jeans are too tight, or we catch a bad angle in the mirror. I actually had some friends back in college saying they avoided looking at their bodies in the mirror because they just didn’t want to see themselves. Does that make you sad? Because it makes me sad! 

We all have those moments, but how do we get past them?

First, stop. 

Stop thinking and take a deep breath. 

Now take another. 

And another.

Calming your heart rate is essential because that’s what sends you into a panic. Know that the thoughts running through your head probably aren’t true. The way your body looks probably won’t keep you from doing anything you want to do in your life, as long as you don’t let your thoughts and fears hold you back.

What next?

Find something else to do to channel that energy. 

Go for a run.

Journal.

Do a boxing or HIIT workout.

Read your bible.

Walk around the block.

Choose something to the negative energy out that’s good for you. It’s so easy to turn to a familiar but unhealthy coping mechanism to make yourself feel better in the moment, like binge eating or drinking, because it will only make you feel worse in the end.

Once you’ve calmed down, pull out your rational mind. Your body does not define you. People don’t love you because of your body, they love you for you. When you think about women you admire, do you think about their bodies? Probably not.

You’re okay. You’re going to be okay. In fact, you’re pretty awesome.

Breathe through those moments until they pass, because if you’re focusing on accepting, liking and loving yourself then you will feel better when you let your rational brain take back over from those negative thoughts.

Now that you’ve figured out how to breathe through those moments, let’s work on experiencing them less and less.

First of all, it’s important to know that they probably won’t ever go away. Unless you truly love every inch of your body (Samantha from Sex and The City comes to mind 😉 ), you’re going to have those moments every once in a while. The key is to learn how to move through them, rather than trying to make them never happen, which only ends up in you feeling bad that you can’t love yourself the way you are. No one needs that shame! Understand that you’re human, you’re going to be affected by what you see and hear and you can’t get rid of years of conditioning in just a few months.

Jumping from hating or disliking how your body looks to loving how your body looks is a big leap and can become too overwhelming or feel impossible. Start with accepting your body. That’s all – just accept that this is how you look and know that we were all made differently. This might not change how you feel but just focus on acceptance.

Important interjection: Yes, you can want to change your body through nutrition and exercise, but you should still learn to accept and like yourself as you are now or you’ll never love yourself at another size. It’s all about being confident in who you are!

Once you’ve mastered accepting your body, move on to liking your body. Think about all the things you love about yourself. Think about how you have a healthy body that has done so much for you. Think about those moments where you felt amazing and just sit in those emotions and positive thoughts about yourself.

Even when you love your body, you’ll still have those moments. Those moments of seeing yourself in a negative light and feeling panicked that you have to change or you won’t be accepted. When that moment happens, stop and breathe. Use your tools. Journal out your feelings, breathe, do some yoga, go on a walk. In a difficult moment, these might be the last things you want to do but do them anyway. Anything is better than panicking and using a negative coping mechanism.

Sooner or later, you’re going to have more positive moments than negative ones. Those moments when you’re feeling amazing, dancing with your friends or catching yourself in the mirror and thinking, “you are totes adorbs today.” Okay, maybe you don’t use those words, but you get me, right?

Remember, start with acceptance and most importantly,

give yourself some grace.

You’re doing just fine.

How do you deal with negative body image moments? 

What’s your best tip for calming down in moments of panic?