Thursday Thoughts

1. Guess what happens after work tomorrow?!

SPRING BREAK!!!

Major perk to working at a school. One whole FREE week off! I will be spending the week relaxing in Colorado Springs! Haha very different from my college days when I went on a cruise in the Bahamas… #adulting.

2. I finally got up the courage to run in the morning! I had running on my plan for Tuesday and did not have time after work, so I thought I’d give it a try in the morning even though it’s still dark out. Although I didn’t love it… I definitely learned that it wasn’t as scary as I anticipated, as long as I stuck to well-lit areas.

3. Wear sunscreen! Haha yes, I’m throwing in that Public Service Announcement. I went to the dermatologist this past weekend and my skin check was good! But WEAR YOUR SUNSCREEN! You’ll thank me later 🙂

4. This past weekend I hung out with these two cuties! I have a profile on Rover.com for dog-sitting to earn some extra money (gotta pay for that ski trip somehow!). These two were so sweet and they’ve already rebooked me for a few weeks from now!

5. With daylight savings, I’m getting to see the sunrises again and I have to say – it’s the ONE good thing about daylight savings!

6. The bad thing, however, is that seeing the sunrise here only makes me miss the view from my apartment in Chicago. It really was the most amazing view and the most beautiful sunrises I’ve seen.

7. Last night my new small group met for the second time and started talking about the book we decided to read: One Way Love by Tullian Tchividjian. I like it so far! And I really like these two women. They’re a mother and a daughter and they’re fun, they’re so nice, and I feel like I’m being welcomed into their family.

8. Have a great Thursday!

Your Turn!

Are you a sunscreen fanatic like I am? 

Do you ever dog or cat sit for friends or family (or strangers!)? 

What are you reading right now?

Thursday Thoughts

1. Guess who forgot to do her Thursday Thoughts on a Thursday again? THIS GIRL! But let’s be honest: on Tuesday, I thought it was Wednesday, on Wednesday I knew it was Wednesday, and then today I thought it was Wednesday again. Apparently every day this week felt like hump day…

2. I got to see Annette this past weekend! She had a fitness instructor training in Denver on Sunday, so Saturday night I picked her up from the airport and we had a sleepover! It’s amazing what great friends you can meet on the internet.

5. On Saturday I also got to see my whole family! Well, my little brother was missing, but close! We all had lunch, hung out with my niece, Addie, and then went on a family walk. It was so nice to have everyone together! And yes, Addie is dressed as a little polar bear. I die.

4. I got to see a lot of great people this weekend, but I also got to see my 4-legged best friend! Love her to pieces.

5. This weekend I’m dog-sitting! I still have my profile up on Rover.com and got an email from a couple who needed someone to watch their two dogs this weekend. They are SUPER CUTE and sweet, so I think it will be fun!

6. Last week felt loooooong so I grabbed myself some Starbucks on my way in on Friday morning. I might do the same this week! I got a Cafe Misto (half coffee, half steamed almond milk).

7. I also got in a run last weekend! We’ve been having BEAUTIFUL weather but of course, when I have a chance to go for a run it’s cold and misting… My run was surprisingly pleasant, though! I’m going to try and keep it a habit to run once a week!


8. Have a great Thursday!

Your turn!

What are you doing this weekend?

What’s the cutest costume you’ve seen a baby wear?

The Best Way to Disappoint

You glance over at the clock and realized it’s 8 pm and you’re still at work well after everyone else has gone home. Just a few more minutes and you’ll finally finish up that project you told your co-worker you could edit and review for them even though you honestly didn’t have the time.

Or you’re covered in flower, elbow deep in yet another batch of cookie dough and realize you probably shouldn’t have both offered to bring cookies for the school bake sale and tried to make them yourself instead of getting store-bought.

We’ve all been there: someone looks you in the eye and says: “Will you…” “Do you mind…” “We’d so appreciate it if you could…”

And then, despite the fact that you don’t want to, you don’t have the time, or you don’t have the energy, you say, “Yes,” when all you really wanted was to shout NO.

It’s hard to say no to someone. You can’t think of an excuse quickly enough, you want to avoid conflict, you feel guilted into saying yes, you want to impress other people or you’ve just turned into an automatic yes-machine, people-pleaser.

Then you find yourself incredibly overwhelmed, exhausted, and resenting the favor you’re doing for someone else the whole time. No one wants that. Even the person who asked you for the favor probably doesn’t want you feeling that way either. So what do you do?

You disappoint people.

To be honest, they’ll probably just move on to the next person to ask, or they’ll figure out how to deal with their problem themselves. But how do you manage to say no after years of saying yes? Start with not giving them an answer straight away. Tell them that you’ll check your calendar or with so and so and you’ll get back to them. Then step away from the person and the conversation and ask yourself if you really have the time or energy to help them, or if you know you’ll be mad or resentful about it when you’re actually doing the favor. Or would you only be doing it because you feel obligated?

 

It’s okay to take a moment to decide if you should say yes or no. Sometimes you’ll conclude that yes, you can definitely help out. But if you decide no, that’s okay too. If you know you won’t be able to tell them no to their face, send them an email.

And you know what?

You don’t have to have an excuse.

Sure, you might be feeling guilty, but guess what? Guilt means that you’ve done someone to intentionally harm someone or done something against your morals and you feel bad about doing so. By saying no to someone, you haven’t intentionally harmed anyone so the feeling of guilt is misplaced. It’s OKAY to put yourself first sometimes.

Just say, “Thank you for thinking of me, but I won’t be able to help out this time.

And then breathe a sigh of relief. Saying no may take a lot of practice for you, but the freedom and relief it will bring you in your life is well worth the initial struggle.

Your turn!

Do you ever struggle with saying no?

Thursday Thoughts

1. I don’t think I’ve ever heard of Women’s Day before, but it was a really big deal this year! I loved all the fun messages from friends and the empowerment of the day. So, happy belated women’s day to all you beautiful women out there!

2. This past weekend, a few of my friends from Chicago flew in and we spent the weekend in Breckenridge and IT WAS A BLAST! We went skiing, snow shoeing and enjoyed hanging out in Breckenridge. I loved having them in town and getting to just relax for the weekend and enjoy the moment.

3. Speaking of skiing, this weekend was the first time I’d skied in fifteen years! I know, right? And guess what? It really was just like riding a bike. Two green runs and I was already bored and ready to head up to the top of the mountain. I even did a black near the end of the day! Now I HAVE to get a local pass next year so I can ski more often!

4. Yesterday, my friend Jaclyn ran her 1,000th mile and wanted to celebrate by getting 100 women to run a mile with her. She’s a sweetheart and I wanted to support her, so I headed out for a cold, quick one mile before my strength workout.

5. Guess what I’m doing this weekend? Addie-sitting!!! For those of you who don’t know, that means babysitting my niece. My brother and sister-in-law are going to head up to the mountains to ski super early so I’ll be there bright and early! The extra fun part, however, is that my mom and dad are in town and are going to come up and help watch her for a little while! It’s a party!

6. Did you miss Tuesday’s post? Help get the changes in your life going by Using Pleasure to Make New Habits Stick. 

7. Oh, you thought I was done talking about my weekend? It made me want to move up into the mountains and work as ski patrol forever. Everyone was so happy up there, I didn’t want to leave!

8. Have a great Thursday!

Your turn!

Have you ever thought of quitting your “real life” to live in a vacation town?

Have you ever been skiing?

 

Using Pleasure To Make New Habits Stick

Now that we’re well past the new year, have you thought about what happened to your resolutions?

Most people have given theirs up by now usually because they were unable to be consistent for the amount of time needed to get them to stick. Why? Because more often than not, when we choose new habits to incorporate into our lives, they’re usually something we don’t want to do and think that we can overcome this dislike with willpower. The problem with willpower is that it only lasts for so long.

Even the most disciplined of people need more than willpower to keep working towards their goals.

We often start off on a total high: ready to make a change in our lives for the better. After a while, the fear creeps in and we start to doubt ourselves. Then we miss few days of sticking to our new habits or goals and we start to feel shame and embarrassment that we weren’t able to keep up with our plans, causing us to beat up on ourselves and feel like a failure or even blame others or dismiss the goal altogether.

I should have done better.

I won’t ever be able to change, this is just how I am.

I’ll never be good enough. 

What’s the point if I can’t do it 100%?

If only my schedule were different, I could have made it happen.

It was a stupid goal in the first place.

I don’t need that in my life, I’ll be fine how I am.

Sound familiar?

We’ve all been there at some point in our lives, some of us more often than not. But you know what? It’s okay, it’s normal, and it can change, but we have to go about it the right way.

First and foremost, you need to have a WHY.

If you’re trying to lose weight or get healthy, having a “why” that’s set on a date, like an upcoming wedding, or something superficial, won’t stick with you in the long run. Choose a why that comes out of love for yourself, like “I want to lose weight because I want more energy and to feel confident and vibrant.” Another example would be, “I want to learn Italian so I can get the most out of my trip to Italy and give myself the confidence to go back again.”

A bad example? “I want to lose weight because I’m embarrassed about how I look and no one will love me like this.” This “why” only brings up feelings of shame and makes weight loss feel like a punishment, not something positive.

Next up, choose the path of least resistance.

How convenient something is for you makes a huge difference in whether or not we get it done. Did you sign up for a cheaper gym that’s a further away? Pay a little extra for the one closest to work or your office (or workout at home!). Do you go sit in your office to journal? Keep your journal at the kitchen counter so you see it and can do it while eating breakfast rather than having to go out of your way. The easier you can make something, the more likely you are to complete the habit.

Use positive associations.

Still struggling to keep that habit? Associate the thing you don’t want to do with something you love to do. For example, if you hate flossing, do it while in the shower. If you struggle to get out the door for a walk, make a rule that you can only listen to your favorite podcast while walking. If you can’t seem to remember to take your vitamins, keep them next to the coffee maker and don’t allow yourself coffee until you’ve taken them.

Lastly, reward yourself in positive ways.

A great example of this is rewarding weight loss or achieving new fitness goals with something other than food like a new outfit. Why? Because life is about balance and a treat isn’t something you should have to earn, it’s something you can give yourself at any time. Also, many of us already struggle with using food for emotional comfort.

Another great example, reward finishing a course in Italian with going to a fancy Italian restaurant, buying something Italian, or even a trip to Italy if you can! Reward yourself for drinking more water daily with a cute new water bottle, or for journaling consistently with some pretty new pens.

What now?

Go back to how you felt on January 1st. Go back to that feeling of hope and optimism about making a change in your life. Sit down, journal, and figure out what isn’t working for you or what you think would enrich your life. You don’t need the first of the year to start something new, you don’t even need a Monday. Start today. Start NOW.