October 14, 2016
I realize I haven't been blogging as much lately and especially not much about the real things that are going on in my life. I started this blog as a way to really connect with women and let them know they aren't alone in their struggles, so more of that will be coming your way in the future!
I feel like I've been spreading my creative energy thin with working on my coaching business, trying to write more thoughtful Instagram posts, newsletters, and making live videos on Facebook. But this blog is important to me and such a great creative outlet that it's time to put a little more time into it!
Today we're going to talk about some things that are very new to my life, but that I've been finding to be helpful with my mindset:
Visualization, Affirmations, and Meditations.
My journey in this realm actually started with meditations. I've been dealing with worse than usual anxiety over the past few months and I decided to give meditation a tray as a way to just calm down and breathe. I downloaded a few apps, my favorites so far being Headspace and Calm, and started meditating when I was feeling overly anxious and needed to calm down. I also found it to be a great way to help me clear my head and fall asleep at night.
What I love about these guided meditations is that it helps you to ground yourself in your physical body (they tell you to feel your feet against the ground and the weight of your body in your chair) and then to focus on your breathing and start counting breaths. But my favorite part is that you're allowed to have thoughts, but you let them come and then you let them move on. I like to imagine I'm floating on a cloud and all my thoughts are like clouds that pass me in the sky and keep on moving so I can go back to focusing on myself and my breathing. I would never have been able to just "meditate" by sitting down and being silent on my own, so I highly recommend starting out with some of these guided meditations to teach you how to do it.
Remember, you are a beginner at anything new and you should expect to be great at meditating the first time you try.
This book has reintroduced the ideas of visualization and affirmation into my life and I'm really enjoying seeing them with a whole new perspective.
Visualization is now one of my favorite things to do in the morning.
Why? Because what I visualize is the life that I want most for myself, and it's pretty fun to imagine I'm living that life. It makes me excited for the future because I know I'm capable of creating a world around myself that I love.
I do love many aspects of my life NOW and I think gratitude is SO important as a daily ritual, but we're allowed to dream for more, right? That's what my visualization is for - something to work towards.
My visualization for my life includes my future job and business, what my home looks and feels like, what kind of people I've surrounded myself with, and how I feel on a daily basis.
Another thing I've been doing along with visualization is saying affirmations. And let me tell you...
I used to think affirmations were silly.
But that's mostly because I felt silly doing them, so I chose to write them off. An affirmation is a present-tense, positive statement that you make about yourself and your life. Usually, it's helpful to say them out loud, but you can also think them in your mind throughout the day. This is where the feeling silly part comes in. When you're saying a statement that you may not 100% believe, you feel uncomfortable. Our best affirmations come from the places where our inner-critic is hardest on us, so if you feel uncomfortable saying the affirmation, then you probably need it the most.
Here are a few examples:
I am loveable.
I deserve to be prosperous and happy.
This is an abundant universe and there is plenty for all of us.
I deserve the best in life.
I am willing to be happy and successful.
Creative ideas and inspiration are coming to me every day.
I am deeply relaxed and centered.
God is doing his perfect work in this situation now for the good of all concerned.
God is guiding me now.
I am confident in my job and my workplace.
I love and accept myself just the way I am.
Get the idea? Did reading any of those make you really uncomfortable or think, nope, not me? Guess what? You CAN believe each and every one of these things about your life, but I've learned that it takes a lot of practice, affirming, and changing our thoughts to more positive ones. This idea of changing your life through affirmation and visualization is called manifestation. Yes, I know it sounds a little "wooo-wooo," as I like to call it, but I'm starting to see what people are talking about and why so many people believe in manifestation.
And no, manifestation doesn't mean that I'm just sitting around imagining my life and hoping it comes to fruition.
It means that I give myself a positive mindset and know exactly what I want each morning, and then I go after it and work hard for it. Haha so don't worry, I haven't gone off the deep end! All of these things are positive, helpful tools that I'm adding into my life, along with the consistent, hard work that I know it takes to get me to where I want to be. I figure it can't hurt, right?
I'm really enjoying giving all of these techniques a try.
If you want to see me chat about this topic in person, here's a live video I did on my Facebook Page about the book and how I'm enjoying affirmations and visualization: