On Feeling Resistance

Feb 21, 2017

There are a few particular areas of my life where I want to see real change, where I've wanted to see real change for YEARS but things keep staying the same. Why? Because I am not doing the work. Yes, I'm doing little things here and there, but I'm not consistently sticking to the action that I want to take to get to where I want to go.

For example, I got a book recommended to me about anxiety, but it's filled with worksheets and it's like 400 pages long. I WANT to change my anxiety but I haven't actually opened the book (okay, I read the intro...) and doing the work.

I can't seem to bring myself to take action.

One of the most poignant things I learned in my life coach training is when we are about to do something that will make big, positive changes in our lives, we often feel a great deal of resistance. We put it off, we avoid it, we do everything in our power to procrastinate. WHY?

Because it’s SCARY.

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Yes, I know positive changes will come from working my way through this book but to get there I have to trudge through my feelings. Yes, I’m a life coach, but I sometimes push my feelings down inside me just like anyone else. The difference is, however, that I’m aware of what I’m doing, which just makes me want to yell “shut up, I don’t want to talk about it!” to myself…

I swear I don’t talk out loud to myself… often.

I mean, what if I dig through those feelings and I don’t like what I find out? What if it makes me feel even more depressed from bringing up negative things? What if I do the whole book and it doesn't work?

Yes, it is SO much easier to stay in our comfort zones, but I guarantee that you aren’t living your happiest, most fulfilling life in there. Imagine yourself, in your little comfort zone box, with all the things that you're good with in there, but looking outside at all the things you wish you could do. Sometimes you have to cut a hole and stick your head out of the box to realize just what you’re missing and that, with a little work, those dreams can be within your reach too.

The moral of this little story is if you’re avoiding doing something that you KNOW is good for you, recognize that it is simply your own ego holding your back out of fear. Get it over with, rip off that band-aid, and move forward with your life.

Taking action is so key to living a life that you love.

Sitting around and hoping for something better won't get you anywhere, but taking the steps every single day to get to where you want to be is how you change your life. YES, IT CAN BE SCARY but put fear in the backseat, not the driver's seat. Acknowledge fear, let it come along for the ride, but step forward anyway towards the life that you want. Take baby steps if that's best for you, or dive all in if you prefer, but MOVE. Move forward, take action, and if you're consistent you'll start to see your life change and feel yourself change.

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