On Resilience

Oct 26, 2015

I talk a lot about following your dreams on this blog, about going after the things you want and keeping a positive attitude. But what about when you keep getting knocked down? When door after door is slammed shut in your face?

One of the first things I heard when I became a Beachbody Coach was that for every 10 people you talk to, on average you get 9 no's and one yes. But what about when that ratio starts getting closer to 20:1, or 50:1? What about when the "no's" start to hurt and it becomes harder and harder to push forward?

Pursuing your dreams is hard, there's no doubt about it. No one walks through life with everything handed to them. We all have hopes, ideas, and things that we would love to accomplish. Some of us manage to get past the first, and often biggest, struggle of our own fear and go for what we want.

That's step one: convince yourself that you can do it.

Step two: convince everyone else.

But step 2 can take a lot of time, it can take a lot of no's, and it can even take a completely different direction. As we wake up day after day and put in the work to get to where we want to be, we can get worn down. Sometimes a hug and kind words from a loved one can lift you back up. Sometimes a great quote, a good run, or a few days off can get you back into the game. But me? I'm slowly learning to turn to God.

Over these past 10 months I've gotten more "no's" than I care to think about. I ask God to help me, to point me in the right direction, but day after day it feels like doors keep closing. When I'm in the thick of it, however, I don't see what He is doing. He is pushing and pulling me to where and who he wants me to be. When we pray for an answer, God doesn't usually send down a note or a clear sign telling you what to do. He teaches you. He's been teaching me.

This evening I got a no just like any other and for a moment, just a moment, it felt like the straw on the camel's back. I felt tears welling up. I felt myself wanting to crawl under my covers and not come back out. I thought to myself, how do I keep going tomorrow? How do I not let this get to me?

So I did what any other 20-something would do in our day and age: I googled it.

More specifically, I googled "resilience verses bible" (very coherent) and came up with this site. I read through the verses and the further and further I read down the page, the more I felt God standing by my side. One little no didn't stop Jesus. Hundreds and thousands of "no's" didn't stop him either - he had a message to share and no one would stop him. God taught me a lesson tonight.

He taught me that if I am pursuing Him and His path for me, there is no "giving up."

The righteous keep moving forward, and those with clean hands become stronger and stronger. Job 17:9

He taught me to lean on Him because He is my strength.

I am able to do all things through Him who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13

He taught me to keep pursuing my story because He knows what He's doing.

For I know the plans I have for you“–this is the LORD’s declaration–“plans for your welfare, not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.

And He taught me to turn to Him when I feel like I can't go on. Jeremiah 29:11

Always be joyful. Never stop praying. Whatever happens, give thanks, because it is God’s will in Christ Jesus that you do this. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

I don't share this story for pity, for encouragement, or for anything else self-serving. I share because I know I'm not the only one. I'm not the only person with big ideas and dreams. I'm not the only person who feels like the struggle will never end. I'm not the only person who didn't want to try again today.

I share because I want you to know that we're all in this together. We're here to share ourselves, to share that unique part of us that is a gift, with the rest of the world. So don't stop now. Don't let your heart be stifled. I believe in you. I believe in your dreams. They may not take the same form you imagined when you started, but you'll get to where you want to be, you just need a little faith and a lot of God.