When Is It My Turn?

November 25, 2014

A couple weeks ago, a friend of mine and I were discussing where we thought we would be at this age in our lives. As women, many of us grow up putting numbers on our future: I'll be married at 24-25, first child around 27-28, maybe two boys and one girl, etc.

Although we may or may not realize our "singledom" is for the best, many of us, especially if you're a romantic like me, often ask "When is it my turn?" or "Why not me?" and feel as though you're wasting away time. But whatever it is that you're wishing for, sometimes you don't get it: maybe not now and maybe not ever.

So what if what you dream for doesn't happen? Sometimes we forget that expectations often lead to disappointment. I'm not saying that you should never have expectations, but when it comes to things that you're not in control of they can make you focus on what you don't have, rather than what you do.

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Expectations also change as you change. Maybe you thought that by 25 you'd be ready for marriage, but then you reach 25 and realize you have so much more to figure out about yourself before you can put that much work and energy into someone else.

Life usually doesn't turn out the way you imagined, but if you're true to yourself and your beliefs it may turn out even better. Just remember to stay positive and stay grateful for all that you have been given in your life.

If I had gotten married at 25, I wouldn't be the person I am today and I really like who I've become. So don't spend your time thinking about what you don't have: focus on what you do. I promise it will make for a much more enjoyable and rewarding life.