Faith

Finding Our Value Outside Of Money

Nov 21, 2016

Many of us fall prey to finding our value in this world from things like how much money we have, how impressive our career is, and other material-based or awards-based achievements. Today I wanted to remind all of us, including myself, of the importance of seeking our value as a person and our value to this society in ourselves and the love and gifts we have to offer those around us.

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I've been slowly making my way through a study by She Reads Truth called Letters to Timothy, which is an 18-day reading plan that includes daily readings from Timothy, along with other passages from the bible, and an article by the She Reads Truth writers. Here's an overview:

Paul’s letters to Timothy remind us of our truest context—we are sinners saved by grace, and our lives are to be an overflow of that life-saving, life-changing reality. While Paul's other letters are to congregations, these are from a trusted mentor to his spiritual son. And though the letters contain specific and important instructions for the Church, the overarching tone is more than a list of dos and don’ts. It is an earnest charge from a father in the faith: Live in light of the Gospel.

Today's reading was about money, which I found very fitting since that's something that is constantly on my mind right now. Having lost my job back in February and lost my unemployment checks in September, I've actually never been so lacking in funds in my life. Well, maybe when I was a baby, but I was the girl who put all her babysitting money in her savings account and generally spent frugally, minus some special treats here and there.

Part of today's reading included the following verses:

"But godliness with contentment is great gain, for we brought nothing into the world, and we cannot take anything out of the world." 1 Timothy 6:6-7

This really struck me because it reminded me that all these things that we have or want in this world are just that - things. In the long run of eternal life, they really don't mean anything. No matter how much we collect or accumulate during this life, it's not coming with us!

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I must say, however, that there's nothing inherently wrong with enjoying material things. Many of us find great joy from beautiful things, from expressing ourselves through our fashion or our homes, or even love to spend our money on amazing life experiences. That's perfectly fine! I actually love that Paul addresses being rich in his letter to Timothy:

"As for the rich in this present age, charge them not to be haughty, nor to set their hopes on the uncertainty of riches, but on God, who richly provides us with everything to enjoy. They are to do good, to be rich in good works, to be generous and ready to share, thus storing up treasure for themselves as a good foundation for the future, so that they may take hold of that which is truly life." 1 Timothy 6:17-19

The point of this message is not to get so wrapped up in money that we define our value on material things and wealth.

Our value is found in the fact that we are all children of God, of the universe. We are all given talents, gift and love to share with others - that is where our value stems from, not from how much money we have or what our salaries are.

But it's so easy to forget this, isn't it?

I have to throw my hand up and say I'm very guilty of putting my value in money. While job searching, I've scoffed at some salaries, thinking I'm worth so much more than that! Or what would people think of me if I only made that much? When what I really should be thinking of is how much do I really need to survive? How much do I really need to buy groceries, pay rent, pay back loans, and still have enough to enjoy life's experiences?

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We have nothing to prove.

We don't have to show people we are of value based on how much money we make, or how nice our clothes are, or how fancy the car is that we drive. We are all equally valuable human beings in the world, no matter our income. Just like everything else I learn from being a Christian, this message is something I have to work on daily, because I am perfectly imperfect in my human ways.

San Francisco Inspiration Day

Nov 15, 2016

This past Friday I attended an event called Inspiration Day in San Francisco, which was put on by the coaching academy I took my life coaching course with, Beautiful You Coaching Academy. I actually can't believe it's all over! It was SUCH a blessing and exactly what my heart needed right now.

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To be honest, going in I did NOT want to be there. I was feeling bad about how my coaching business was going, thinking I wasn’t doing as well as everyone else, or I had wasted away my time and opportunity, and that I just wasn't good enough. You know, all those horrible thoughts that AREN'T TRUE and that I'm always working to keep out of my head! Understandably, I was feeling some major social anxiety - I was just NOT in the mood for chit-chatting with a bunch of happy people!

Luckily, I was attending with Anna and that made me feel so much better to have her support and know someone was going in with me. Friends are the best.

And can you guess what happened?

I came out with a full heart and felt SO inspired!

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I guess it was called Inspiration Day for a reason! But seriously, the day ended up being a big game changer for me. I walked in just wanting to get through it and get it over with, but it ended up making me feel so much better about where I am with my business and in life.

One of the things a speaker said that really clicked with me was that there are three phases to any project:

1) The shiny new phase, where you're so excited about your new idea;

2) the development phase, where you have to really put in the work and things get hard;

3) and the flow phase, where you've really gotten your project off the ground and things are clicking.

Guess where I am? The development stage. This is where most people quit - thinking it's harder than they thought, that maybe it wasn't meant to be, or they lose sight of their end goal and get distracted by something else. But you know what? Things are SUPPOSED to be tough! This is where I’m learning and going through growing pains and doing the hard work. This is where it isn’t new and fun anymore but it’s isn’t flowing yet.

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One of our speakers, Travis Barton, was talking to me after the event, asking me about my business, and when I told him I was really struggling with confidence he said to me: "You took this course right? You graduated from this course, right? Then you can do this."

I needed to hear that. I needed to be reminded of all the hard work that I put in over the first 6 months of the year and that I need to just keep working and practicing and reaching out to people.

Our teacher Julie’s speech at the end was also really inspiring (and had me in tears.) She said to us: “You are the light workers of the world.” Her speech reminded me of WHY I signed up for this course in the first place - why I wanted to help people and change lives. I think I’ve been getting so wrapped up in the little details of coaching sessions and things that haven’t been going as well and letting it bog me down.

I need to keep connecting with women and reaching out and being a light in people’s lives.

That’s WHY I do this - to be a lightworker. I know I was called to be a coach. I know I was called for something greater in this life - I am here to help and inspire.

I CAN do this - I just need to do the hard work. I just need to practice and practice and practice and not get so anxious about the outcomes - it’s up to my clients as to how their sessions go and what they get out of it, I just have to show up and be there to support them.

I am capable of accomplishing my dreams.

I am capable of being a light worker.

I BELIEVE in myself. I believe in what I do. I believe in me and the gift that God has given me to share with others.

What about you? Are you in the "development stage" of any part of your life? Or are you struggling to find the momentum to begin? If you ever want to chat, I'm here to help - just send me an email at Katie@peaceloveandoats.com and I'll be there for you!

 

The Last Year Of My Twenties

Nov 2, 2016

This past Sunday I turned 29 years old and since then, several people have asked me how I feel about being in the last year of my 20's, or how I plan to rock out this last year before turning 30. And you know what I realized? I hadn't even thought about the fact that this year is my last year of my 20s because you know what? I don't see a difference between 29 years old and 30 years old. Yes, I'll be moving into a new decade next year, but that doesn't mean a whole lot to me right now.

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The funny thing is that the person I was a few years ago would be HYPERVENTILATING right now. I mean freaking out, overwhelmed, and feeling out of control and completely worthless.

Why?

Because I'm not where I thought I'd be in life.

Not many of us expect to be single, unemployed and living in their parents' house at the age of 29. But you know what? I'm pretty good with that because every day I'm working to be a good person and be a light in the world, and that's the best that I or anyone else can do.

The old me would feel like I'd become a completely failure and that I HAD to find a good enough job and get married ASAP or I'd be completely wasting my life. So what's changed? Why am I so calm about turning 29 now?

My faith.

Learning that my life isn't in my own control but in the hands of God has done me a world of good. I no longer believe that I'm a failure in life just because things didn't go as I planned, because I know there's someone out there with a much bigger plan for me, one that I just can't see right now. I no longer feel a need to push myself into situations I'm uncomfortable with just because I think others will approve. I know that I need to trust my instincts and just go with the flow because I know I'm in good hands.

So what I'm going to do with the last year of my 20's?

Keep on growing, pushing myself and working to be the best version of myself I can be. And have a little fun, of course ;)

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